Relaxing Sex: Doing It Side-by-Side

Sex doesn’t always have to be an energetic, exhausting frenzy of animal sex. It can also be relaxing, soothing, and restful.

The side-by-side position is more suited to a relaxing time or when you have low energy levels. Think of lazy mornings and at the end of a long active day.

4 Advantages of Side-by-Side Sex

1. With side-by-side sex, the focus is more on having enjoyable sex than it is on maintaining a difficult or stressful sex position. Some imaginative positions, such as those in the Kama Sutra, take all your focus just to maintain the position.
2. Side-by-side sex is a less strenuous sex position. It’s a great position to use if you’re having health issues or tired after a long day.
3. Sex on your sides is comfortable. Laying on your side in your bed is about as comfortable as it gets. It’s the preferred sleeping position for many of us. If you need some extra support, it’s easy to use pillows for support.
4. Side-by-side sex can be a great position for oral. The person receiving oral lies on their side with their bottom knee bent and their top leg up, thus opening themselves. The person giving oral can very comfortably lay on their side and rest their head on the receiver’s thigh.
   

The Two Basic Positions of Side-by-Side Sex

1. Facing Each Other on Your Sides

The couple lies on their sides, facing each other. They press their hips together, and the woman wraps one leg over her partner, opening herself to him.

There are many benefits to the face-to-face position:

• Because you’re facing each other, it can be a very intimate position.
• You can embrace and wrap your arms around each other. You can relax into each other’s arms while having sex, which isn’t true in many sex positions.
• The couple can kiss each other’s face, lips, and neck while having sex.
• The man can caress the woman’s breasts while enjoying penetration.
• Both partners can caress the other’s butt, and pull each other closer and deeper.
  

2. Man Spooning Behind the Woman.

Spooning is the word that best describes this position. The woman lies on her side facing away from the man and pulls her knees up toward her chest. She can keep her legs together or raise one leg up to fully expose her genitals and allow her partner easier access.

The man either lies on his side close to the woman’s back, or at a slight angle to her back. He can adjust his angle and his location to allow him to penetrate his partner.

The spooning position also has many advantages:

• The man can reach around and caress his partner’s breasts and nipples while having sex.
• The man can kiss his partner’s neck, back, or cheek if she turns her head toward him.
• He can reach around her and stimulate her clitoris with his fingers while having sex.
• The woman can easily reach down and stimulate her clitoris while being penetrated.
• Many women find that they enjoy being penetrated from the back in the side-by-side position, even if they don’t enjoy having sex from behind in the typical doggie sex position.
• While laying behind the woman, the man can grab her hips and pull her onto him to get deeper penetration.
• Spooning can be a good position for anal sex. For some, the angle of penetration makes anal more comfortable, and the woman has more control over the depth of penetration.
• If the two of you enjoy a kinky experience, the woman could wear a blindfold, and he can pull her hair back, grab her breasts, and spank her butt while thrusting inside her.
• The spooning position can also be a great position to stimulate a woman’s G-spot. From the back, a man’s penis is stroking the front (top) of the woman’s vagina, which is where the G-Spot is located.
  

Try the Side-by-Side Sex Position

It’s easy to overlook the side-by-side position. It’s not as flashy and iconic as some of the more active positions, such as doggie style, missionary, or woman-on-top.

Use it the next time one of you is interested in sex, but your partner says, “I’m too tired.” Just get in the position, relax, and start touching and kissing. This might turn into sex once your partner relaxes and tunes in to the pleasant sensations.

Or, try it some lazy morning when your partner is sleeping in. Slide into bed nude behind them, cuddle up next to them, and begin touching and fondling your partner. This might lead to sex, or it might just be a very pleasant, intimate way to wake up.

Side-by-side can be a great option when both of you desire sex. It can be the position of choice if you want to experience something different from missionary.