How to Give a Woman a G-Spot Orgasm

The G-Spot is named after German gynecologist Ernst Gräfenberg, who did research about female orgasm.

My understanding is that the G-Spot has not been scientifically proven to exist. However, many sex therapists and educators believe that it exists and teach how to use it to increase female sexual pleasure.

Where Is the G-Spot?

The G-Spot is located about 1/3 of the way inside a woman’s vaginal opening. If a woman is laying on her back, it’s located on the top surface of the vagina.

It’s often a slightly raised area or bump (although not always) of spongy tissue. It can have a rough, bumpy surface.

The easiest way to locate the G-Spot is for the woman to lay on her back, and for her partner to insert one or two fingers inside her vagina with their palm up. Using a “come hither” gesture with their finger, the partner can gently feel for a raised area of tissue along the upper wall of the vagina.

Why Stimulate the G-Spot?

1. A Whole-Body Orgasm

Many women report that when the G-Spot is stimulated, they can have an orgasm that feels distinctly different from a clitoral orgasm. While a clitoral orgasm feels more centered in one location, the clitoris, a G-Spot orgasm feels more generalized, or “whole body.”

Women describe this type of whole-body orgasm as feeling like waves of pleasure coursing through their bodies. G-Spot stimulation and orgasm can also trigger strong emotions. It’s not unusual for women to laugh or cry while being stimulated.

Not all women experience G-Spot Orgasms. That’s entirely normal.

2. Female Ejaculation

Women can also experience the phenomenon known as female ejaculation while having their G-Spot stimulated. This is experienced as drops or a stream of liquid coming from their vagina.

Some women suppress this urge to ejaculate because they are afraid it is pee. While some studies have found that female ejaculate is made up of elements other than urine, others have disputed this. My personal experience is that it does not have the smell or color of urine.

How much fluid a woman ejaculates varies. Some women ejaculate only a small amount, while others can soak the bed. My partner and I regularly use a soft, washable waterproof blanket when we’re having sex. This avoids staining bedding and having to change the sheets after sex. It’s one of the most useful sexual aids we’ve purchased.

While some women regularly experience female ejaculation, others do not. Again, it’s perfectly normal not to do so.

How To Stimulate a Woman’s G-Spot

1. Intercourse Positions

• Spooning. In this position, both partners are laying down on their sides. The woman lies facing away from her partner, and the man lies behind the woman, facing her back. When the man penetrates her from this position, his penis will stroke the top of the woman’s vagina, where the G-Spot is located.
• Woman on Top. The woman straddles the man’s hips with his penis inside her. By shifting the angle of her hips and body, and controlling the depth of penetration, she can rub the head of his penis against her G-Spot.
• Doggy Style. The woman is on all fours with the man on his knees behind her. He can stimulate her G-Spot with shallow penetration and adjust his body to angle his penis up into her vagina. By doing so, he rubs the head of his penis against her G-Spot.
  

2. Using Fingers to Stimulate the G-Spot

The most effective way to stimulate a woman’s G-Spot is for her partner to directly stimulate it using their fingers. Before starting G-Spot work, arouse the woman with extended foreplay.

Use your preferred lubrication on your fingers to make them slippery and silky, and avoid any abrasive feelings against the sensitive wall of the vagina. There are quality water-based and silicone lubricants readily available. Some people enjoy using coconut oil. Make sure your nails are clipped or use latex gloves.

• While the woman is laying on her back, slide one or two fingers inside her with your palm up. Use the “come hither” gesture to gently probe her upper vaginal wall, feeling for a bump of spongy tissue. The woman may also be able to guide you to the right spot.

• Once located, begin to stroke the G-Spot with gentle motions, either front to back or side to side. It’s not unusual for the woman to feel some discomfort at first, or like she needs to pee.

• Continue with gentle stimulation until the feeling of discomfort goes away, and it starts to feel pleasurable for the woman. At this point, you can experiment with what type of movement and pressure feels best to her.

• Once you find the right touch, continue with this pressure and movement until she orgasms. If she’s not too sensitive, you might be able to continue with gentle stimulation and guide her into more orgasms.

One variation is to add clitoral or breast stimulation while you continue to stroke her G-Spot. This added stimulation can put her “over the top” and give her the experience of a powerful combined G-Spot and Clitoral orgasm at the same time.

3. Using a G-Spot Sex Toy

Did you know there are sex toys specifically designed to stimulate the G-Spot? Most are penis shaped with a curve at the end specifically designed to contact the upper wall of the vagina.

Most of these toys combine an upward angle with the stimulation of a vibrator. Some women find them extremely effective in inducing powerful G-Spot orgasms!

Top-rated vibrators include the Dame Products Arc Personal Massager, the LELO Soraya Wave, and the LELO Gigi 2. A quality non-vibrating toy is the Njoy Pure Wand. These toys are not cheap, but many women think they are worth every penny.

Try G-Spot Stimulation

If you’ve never tried G-Spot stimulation, I encourage you to do some experimenting. There’s nothing to be afraid of, and you may find a new way to enjoy sexual pleasure.

I’d suggest that you educate yourself and your partner before attempting to locate and stimulate the G-Spot. Books you might want to explore include Loving the G-Spot: The Definitive Guide on the Secret Center of Feminine Pleasure, and Female Ejaculation and the G-Spot. A Google search will return many articles on the topic.

If you’d like more personalized help, there are sex educators and sexual bodyworkers who specialize in G-Spot work. They help women (and their partners) locate and stimulate the G-Spot. You might find them by searching in your area for a tantric sensual skills trainer.