How Seniors Can Give Great Oral Sex to a Man

Question to a man: What do you call the worse oral sex you ever received? Answer: Fantastic! That well-known joke highlights the fact that almost all men love receiving oral sex.

And yet, many sex workers report that many of their customers are married or partnered men come to them for oral because their partners won’t give them oral sex. Somewhere, there’s a disconnect between what men want from their partners and what they get.

Most men LOVE receiving oral.

Some women don’t enjoy giving oral to a man, just as there are some men who don’t enjoy giving oral to a woman. But I’m guessing that there are likely many women who would be willing to do oral, but don’t feel like they know enough to do so, or had a bad first experience. They don’t try because they want to avoid being criticized or embarrassed by a lack of skills.

My purpose in writing this article is to give some pointers on how to give great oral to a man. I’m hoping this will help women who are hesitant to do so to give it a try, and also to encourage women who have experience to strengthen their skills.

Finding Your Way Around a Penis

Before a woman attempts to orally pleasure a man, she needs to have a basic understanding of male genital anatomy. An article in Wikipedia.com gives a good explanation of the male reproductive system.

The frenulum is particularly important since, “it is considered to be the most sensitive part of the penis to fine-touch.”

At a minimum, any woman attempting to give pleasurable oral sex needs to know the location of the head of the penis, the corona (where the penis meets the shaft), and the frenulum. The frenulum is particularly important since, “it is considered to be the most sensitive part of the penis to fine-touch.” Wikipedia. All of these need stimulation to give great oral sex.

A man’s testicles are suspended in his scrotum below his penis. Many men find oral stimulation of their testicles to be highly erotic.

If a man has not been circumcised, he will have a foreskin that covers the tip of his penis when he’s not aroused. The foreskin typically withdraws and uncovers the head of the penis when he becomes erect, or a woman can gently pull the foreskin back to gain access to the head and frenulum.

Not Every Man Enjoys Oral

Despite the joke about any oral sex being great, there are some men who don’t enjoy it. Some men feel shame or negativity about their genitals. They don’t like the way they look, and are uncomfortable letting a woman take their penis in her mouth. Sometimes men believe that women don’t enjoy giving oral, and don’t want a woman to do so under a sense of obligation.

Women can help men overcome these negative feelings by expressing in no uncertain terms how much they love and enjoy giving oral. Tell him you love the way he looks, that you love feeling him in your mouth, that it turns you on to give him oral.

How to Give Great Oral to a Man

Best Positions

Many men enjoy receiving oral while laying on their backs, with the woman kneeling either between his legs or to one side. In this position, the man call fully relax and concentrate on the pleasurable sensations he is receiving. By propping up on his elbows or putting a pillow under his head, he can be visually stimulated watching the woman move her mouth on his penis.

Another advantage of this position is that the woman can also use her body to stimulate him. She can straddle one of his legs and press or grind her vulva against his leg, or caress him with her breasts or longer hair.

Most men enjoy receiving oral laying on their backs, with the woman kneeling between their legs.

A man can also sit in a chair or on a sofa and receive oral as the woman kneels before him. This position is comfortable for the man, and the woman has easy access to the man’s penis.

Another popular position is for the woman to kneel in front of a man as he stands. She has good access to his balls and the underside of his penis. The man has a great view and can caress her hair and face, and lean down to fondle her breasts.

The 69 position also works, either with the man above and the woman below, or the opposite. Be aware that some men find it difficult to climax when their attention is split between giving and receiving oral sex at the same time.

Beware of Too Much Too Soon

Most men will not object if you start a sexual encounter by taking his penis into your mouth. However, it can lead to greater pleasure for both of you if you start out slow and build up to direct oral stimulation.

Start out with general kissing, touching and caressing his body. While you’re making out, reach down and brush his penis. Tease him with your caresses. If he’s dressed, reach into his pants and touch his penis. Unzip or remove his pants to expose him while you touch and stroke him.

When you’re ready to take him orally, again slow down and take your time. Begin with kissing and licking his testicles, then lick up and down his penis. Kiss and lick around his genitals. Let the tension build.

When you do take him in your mouth, start out very light and gentle. If you immediately go full force, you might make him lose sensitivity.

Step-by-Step Instructions on How to give Oral

Go Slow at First

I’m no oral sex expert, but many women have found the following techniques effective. These may or may not work with the man you’re with. All men are different and respond to different approaches.

• If he’s laying down, start by caressing his chest with your breasts and hair. Move between his legs, teasing his penis and testicles with your hair and nipples. These sensations can be very pleasurable and arousing for men.
• Give him gentle kisses around his penis and testicles, up and down the insides of his thighs, along the crease inside his leg. Breath warm breath onto his penis and testicles. Take your time.
• Next, run your tongue around the base of his penis and scrotum, then lightly caress his testicles. Tease him and make him want it.
• Lick up and down the shaft of his penis on the top and bottom. Take his testicles into your mouth and gently suck on them.
• Grab the shaft of his penis and take the head in your mouth. Gently suck on him while swirling your tongue around the head and corona. Tease the opening of his urethra with your tongue. Gently flick the frenulum with the tip of your tongue. When he’s fully erect, pull back on the skin of his shaft to make him harder, smoother, and more sensitive. The key at this point is variety; keep changing how you are giving him stimulation.
• It’s OK if he doesn’t become hard and erect. Even when he’s flaccid, oral sex still feels wonderful for him. And don’t blame yourself, thinking it’s your lack of skills—it’s normal for men to have difficulty getting and keeping an erection from time to time. This is especially true for older men.
  

Take your time; Tease him and make him want it.

Increase the Pressure and Tempo as he Becomes More Aroused

When he’s fully aroused and wanting more, it’s time to increase your sucking pressure and tempo. Since all men are different, you’ll have to experiment with what type of pressure and tempo gives him the most pleasure.

• Moan. Show enthusiasm! Many women love to give oral sex; if you do, don’t be afraid to show it. Make noises, look into his eyes and smile while you’re doing it, show him how much it turns you on. It will greatly increase his pleasure if he knows you’re enjoying yourself. You can stimulate your breasts or clitoris with your hand or a vibrator while you’re giving him oral.
• Use your hands. When you’re sucking the head or the upper part of his penis, stroke up and down his shaft with your hand. Be sure to keep him well lubricated, or it will eventually be painful; lots of spit works wonders. Find the amount that is not too little, or too much.
• Find the tempo that works best for him. Be aware of the signs that he’s either becoming more or less aroused in responding to your movements. When he’s very aroused and wanting to orgasm, stay with your rhythm.
• It’s not unusual for a man to leak a little pre-cum from the tip of his penis when he gets excited. Take it as a sign you’re doing the right things, and he’s highly aroused.
• Many men enjoy having their anus or prostate stimulated while receiving oral. You can stimulate his prostate by pressing on the area between his anus and testicles, the perineum. You can also insert a finger into his anus (about two digits) and stroke his prostate with an upward “come hither” movement.
• Most men love the intense sensations created when a woman is firmly stroking his shaft with her hand in unison with moving her mouth up and down, sucking the head and the upper part of his penis.
• You’ll likely know when he’s ready to orgasm. Many men will grunt, start thrusting into your mouth, arch their backs, or tell you they’re going to cum.
• When he starts to ejaculate, many men enjoy having their testicles gently squeezed or pulled away from their bodies.
• Not all men can ejaculate from receiving oral alone. They might need the stimulation of a hand job or intercourse to achieve orgasm.
  

To Swallow or Not to Swallow?

Many men find cumming in a woman’s mouth and her swallowing his cum to be the ultimate experience of intimacy and acceptance from a woman. There is no harm in swallowing semen, but some women do not enjoy the taste or consistency. You should do what makes you comfortable.

• If you don’t want the man to ejaculate in your mouth, talk about it with him in advance. Tell him you’d prefer him to ejaculate on your breasts, stomach, or other area of your body. Ask him to tell you when he’s close to orgasm, so you can move to another position if necessary.
• Or, you can take him out of your mouth and finish him with your hand. That can be exciting as well. Keep stroking until he’s finished ejaculating and is too sensitive to continue.
• If you prefer not to swallow but do want him to ejaculate in your mouth, hold his ejaculate in your mouth and spit it out onto a tissue or towel when he’s done. I suggest you lay out a tissue or towel close to where you’re giving oral. Jumping up and running to the bathroom after a man ejaculates gives a very negative impression to the man.
• If you want the man to cum in your mouth and want to swallow, don’t stop your movement when he starts to cum. Continue with the same movements you were making as he started to ejaculate until he’s completed. You can swallow as he continues to ejaculate or hold it in your mouth and swallow when he’s finished.
  

Many men find orgasming in a woman’s mouth and her swallowing his ejaculate to be the ultimate experience of intimacy and acceptance from a woman.

Oral Aftercare

An orgasm from oral is one of the most intense and pleasurable sensations a man can experience. Following an orgasm, he will feel relaxed, vulnerable, and open.

Kiss him, take him in your arms and hold him, tell him how much you enjoyed giving him oral. Be aware that although many women feel energized after an orgasm, most men feel drained of energy. Don’t be surprised or offended if he falls asleep for a few minutes after cumming. This indicates he had a great time.

Practice Makes Perfect

It’s great to learn about new techniques for giving oral sex to a man, but it’s even better to take what you’ve learned and put it into practice! If you already have some experience in giving oral, I hope you’ve picked up a few new tips to improve your skills.

If you haven’t given oral to a man because you felt like you didn’t have the skills, I hope I’ve given you enough information to encourage you to give it a try. No one is grading you, and everyone’s a beginner when they first do something. It’s OK to give it a try and see how it goes. Have the mind of a beginner, open to learning new things and having new experiences.

If you’d like to learn more about how to give oral to a man, I’d suggest you read the well-illustrated book, Tickle His Pickle: Your Hands-On Guide to Penis Pleasing , by Sadie Allison. Another good book is, Blow Him Away: How to Give Him Mind-Blowing Oral Sex, by Marcy Michaels. Helpful articles online include “ How to give a man the best oral sex of his life ,” “ How To Give A Good Blow Job ,” and “ Oral Sex Techniques a Step by Step Guide for Men and Women .”

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