A Favorite Sex Position – Woman-On-Top “Cowgirl”

Most of the surveys I’ve seen rank woman-on-top, or “Cowgirl,” as one of the top-three favorite sex positions for both women and men. Missionary usually comes in as #1, with either doggy style or cowgirl as the second most popular position.

7 Advantages of the Cowgirl Position

The popularity of the Cowgirl position is due to its several advantages:

1. In the Cowgirl position, the woman is in control. She controls the depth of penetration and the speed and type of movement. A man with a longer penis can cause pain with deep penetration. In the Cowgirl position, the woman controls exactly how deep he will penetrate, and thus makes the experience more pleasurable for her.

2. Women can position themselves and move in a way that helps them to orgasm in the Cowgirl position. Most women need direct clitoral stimulation to achieve orgasm, which is difficult or impossible to achieve in other sex positions. In Cowgirl, the woman can position herself so her clitoral area “grinds” against the man’s pelvis. She can use a grinding or somewhat circular movement to achieve maximum stimulation to her clitoris and bring herself to orgasm.

3. Sitting on top of a man and facing him, a woman can receive breast and nipple stimulation while being penetrated. It’s easy and inviting for a man to reach up to caress his partner’s breasts and nipples while she is riding him. If she desires the man to suck on her nipples, she can lean down toward him and place her nipples at his mouth.

4. Cowgirl is a good position for a man to take a break if he’s tired from engaging in more male-active positions such as missionary or doggie. He can lay back and let his partner do most of the work, while he enjoys the great visuals of seeing her move on him and experiences being inside her at the same time.

5. Cowgirl gives women the opportunity to act in a more dominant sexual role. She’s in control. This is a change from many sexual positions, where the man is dominant. She determines the motions and the depth of penetration. If desired, she can assert her dominant role by holding the man’s arms or hands down by his sides, on his chest, or over his head as she uses him for her pleasure. She can place a man’s hands where she wants them, or tell him where she desires his touch.

6. Just as Cowgirl gives a woman the opportunity to act out a dominant role, it also gives the man the opportunity to act out a submissive role. The man can enjoy taking a break from leading by laying back and letting her control the interaction. Many men enjoy this change in roles.

7. In the Cowgirl position, a woman can see her partner. She has a clear view of his face and expressions as she moves on him. If the man shows by his expressions, sounds, and movements that he’s enjoying what she’s doing, this can heighten her arousal and enjoyment. Many women indicate that due to the great eye contact Cowgirl is considered a very intimate way to have sex.

7 Variations in the Cowgirl Position

As is true with any sex position, there isn’t just one way to do Cowgirl. There are several common variations, some of which you might enjoy more than others:

1. Instead of kneeling over the man, try squatting with your feet flat on the bed. Balance yourself with your hands as you move up and down on your partner’s penis. This is also a great position to watch yourself being penetrated and can provide a great visual turn-on. This position is physically demanding, so you might not be able to sustain it for long before returning to a kneeling position.

2. A woman can stimulate herself with her fingers or a vibrator by leaning back. Or, the man can stimulate her with his fingers or a vibrator while she rides him.

3. Try leaning way back and arching your back while moving on your partner. Use your arms for support. This position modifies the angle of penetration and can feel very pleasurable.

4. By leaning forward all the way, the woman can rest her body on the man while still being penetrated. The man can wrap his arms around her, grab her butt cheeks and pull her onto him. He can take over much of the movement while she rests by using his hips to thrust up into her.

5. “Reverse Cowgirl” is where a woman turns to face her partner’s feet while she continues to ride him. For her, it’s an opportunity to experience a different angle of penetration. For him, it’s a visual delight and turn-on to have a clear view of her butt and her moving up and down on his penis as he feels the sensations at the same time.

6. While riding, many women enjoy reaching behind them and fondling a man’s scrotum and balls as they move on him. This can be a huge turn-on for the man, and trigger his orgasm.

7. Try bracing your arms on the wall or headboard as you move on top of the man. This gives you leverage as you move your hips, and makes it physically easier.

Possible Restrictions With the Cowgirl Position

Unfortunately, many older men and women have joint issues. If a woman is uncomfortable taking her weight on her knees, she may be unable to perform the classic Cowgirl position.

If you have knee problems, try laying down while on top.

In that situation, one variation which might work is for the woman to mount the man but then lay forward on top of him. This may take enough weight and pressure off her knees to enable her to enjoy the sensations of being on top.

Enjoying the Woman on Top Position

Many women enjoy having men take the lead sexually. However, it’s sometimes a nice change of pace, and exciting, for the woman to take the dominant role. Cowgirl is a position where the roles can change, with the woman dominant and the man submissive.

Try being on top and in charge.

The Cowgirl position can also be very passionate. Many women become highly aroused and can achieve orgasm in this position. Her arousal causes him to become more passionate as well. It’s a win-win for both partners.

If you’re in a stagnant sexual routine and haven’t done Cowgirl in a while, why not give it a try? I suggest that you try some of the variations to see what you enjoy and don’t enjoy.

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