Jim & Lanette Eagar
We are long-time best friends, lovers, and marriage partners. We’ve been married since December of 1972, almost fifty years.
When we married, we knew almost nothing about sexual lovemaking. We knew the biology, but not how to bring sexual pleasure to each other. Before we married we made out a lot, and did some “heavy petting,” but that’s about it. We had no clue on our wedding night!
Learning about Sex
During the years we’ve had a continuing interest in increasing our sexual pleasure and enjoyment. We’ve learned a lot about sexuality by reading, watching educational (and not so educational) sex videos, and experimenting.
As we’ve aged and our bodies have changed, we’ve encountered some of the sexual limitations other seniors typically experience. We’ve made modifications that allow us to continue to enjoy sex as elders.
It saddens us to see seniors give up on sexual pleasure because they can’t do it like they did when they were younger. There are so many options available to seniors to continue to enjoy sex.
Why we Started this Blog
Our reason for starting this blog is to educate and encourage seniors to claim their sexuality and experience sexual joy, regardless of what that looks like due to aging, health, or relationship limitations.
We believe sex is good and healthy for elders and there is no age limit to sexual pleasure! In addition to an educational blog, we plan to develop and teach public workshops on elder sexuality.
Our Education and Careers
Neither of us has any formal credentials specifically related to sexual education. We don’t have counseling licenses or medical degrees. The only level of “expertise” we have is based on our own experiences, the experiences of others we’ve talked to, and research. So consider yourself forewarned, and take what we say with a grain of salt!
Jim’s Bio
Jim began his career as a minister after attending a couple of years of a religious junior college in Tennessee. When he realized he needed more education, he enlisted in the Air Force to get GI Bill educational benefits. After his term of enlistment, he returned to school and graduated with a B.S. degree. Next, he attended a graduate school of theology, where he obtained a three-year Master of Theology. He became a chaplain in the Air Force, where he did a lot of counseling, teaching, and fun stuff like flying with crews in B-52 bombers, KC-135 tankers, and F-106 and F-15 fighters.
After being discharged from active duty, he attended law school in Oregon and began a career focusing first on family law, then estate planning. He also became a JAG (Judge Advocate General) and practiced law in the Air Force Reserve on inactive and active duty tours. In 2009 he was mandatorily retired from the Air Force after a 33+ year career, kicking and screaming because he didn’t want to stop. Jim retired from his law practice in 2015, and he and his wife moved to Arizona.
Jim enjoys hiking, backpacking, Mac computers, teaching classes, and playing WWII historical wargames on his computer.
Lanette’s Bio
Lanette worked as a stay-at-home mom while raising our four children. Later, she worked as a receptionist at a logging equipment company, a couple of construction contractors, and an architectural firm. For the last several years she worked with Jim as an administrative assistant in his estate planning practice.
Lanette likes to play her Celtic harp, hike, backpack, and surf the web to shop.
Something We’ve Always Wanted to Do
Now that we’re both retired, we can do what we want with our time. For over twenty years we’ve talked about the lack of good practical sexual pleasure education in our culture, and how many people seem to have a very limited understanding of sexuality.
We sense that limited knowledge tends to result in limited pleasures. We’ve talked about the possibility of doing some public workshops on sexuality because we care about the level of sexual knowledge and how this impacts the quality of sexual pleasure that others experience.
Our Contribution
We’ve decided that now is the time for us to make our contribution to both our local community of seniors and the larger community. Since we’re both elders now (in our late 60’s), we thought it appropriate to focus our website on sexuality for elders, and the unique issues and difficulties that come with being sexual in aging bodies.