How Knowing Your Sexual Blueprint Can Improve Your Sex Life

As Xanet Pailet says in her book, Living an Orgasmic Life, “It’s hard, if not impossible, to tell your partner what you want if you don’t understand your arousal pattern.”

Many people don’t know what their sexual blueprint, or profile, is. They’re not aware of how, where, and when they like to be touched, what their arousal pattern is, and what their needs are that lead to orgasm.

What is A Sexual Profile?

A sexual profile is a map of what turns you on and ultimately brings you to orgasm. It’s your primary sexual style or preference.

The concept of sexual blueprints was developed and popularized by Jaiya. Over her 20-year practice as a sex educator and tantra workshop leader, she discovered that people have 5 primary sexual blueprints.

These blueprints act as maps to the sexual self. “You can think of it like a “love map,” or a sexual archetype, that helps individuals discover their primary erotic style.” Domina Doll, writing recently in kinkly.com.

What Are the 5 Erotic Blueprints?

1. Sexual. Very visual and genital-focused. People with this blueprint tend to be very straightforward about sex; they are aroused by naked bodies, touching sexual areas, and having sexual intercourse.
2. Kinky. Turned on by “taboo” sexual practices. They tend to enjoy rough sex, bondage, and “kinky” styles of sexuality.
3. Energetic. Sexual and spiritual energy is the focus. People with this profile enjoy eye-gazing, teasing touch, and anticipation.
4. Sensual. It’s all about using all of their senses during sex. They get turned on by experiencing taste, touch, smell, sound, and sight.
5. Shapeshifters. They get turned on by all the other blueprint patterns. Furthermore, they can easily adapt to the blueprint of a partner and get turned on in just about any sexual situation.
   

How Knowing Your Sexual Blueprint Can Help You

Knowing your sexual blueprint can benefit you in many ways:

• It helps you to identify what turns you on. If you know what turns you on and what your arousal pattern is, you know what to ask a partner for. Your chances of getting what you need for an enjoyable sexual session drastically increase when you know what you need and ask for it.
• It helps you to identify what turns your partner on. If you are familiar with the 5 sexual blueprints, you have a better chance of figuring out what your partner requires. This is true even if they don’t know themselves or don’t express their needs to you. You can thus be “compatible” with any sexual blueprint.
• It helps you to focus on, and feed yourself, with the types of activities that keep your sexual fires burning. I have a “Sexual” blueprint. With that profile, there are specific activities that can arouse me and keep me sexually happy:
  
  • Looking at nudity and being nude
  • Self-pleasure
  • Deep kissing
  • Direct genital touch
  • Oral sex
  • Anal sex
  • Penetration
  • Climax
  • Quickies
  • Visual or written erotica
  • Using sex toys
• It helps you understand your blueprint’s own “sexual superpowers” characteristics. With my “sexual” profile, I can have these results:
  
  • I can be fun to play with because I take joy in sex without shame
  • Sex can relieve stress and tension for me
  • I can become aroused quickly and am anxious to get going
  • My love of all things sexual makes life feel just right when having sex.
    

How Do You Discover Your Sexual Blueprint?

You can take an online sexual blueprint test at Jaiya’s website here. At the time of this writing, the cost is $17. (Note: I have no financial interest in you taking the quiz.)

After taking the quiz, you will receive a 28-page personalized report. The report contains many helpful sections:

• What your primary sexual blueprint is, and how you score in each of the other blueprint areas. You may find that you scored high in another blueprint in addition to your primary blueprint.
• A list of your “sexual superpowers” that you bring to the sexual table.
• The “shadow aspects” of your sexual profile. These are the things that tend to kill your sexual fire.
• Ways to feed your sexual self. These are the activities you can seek to fan the flames of your sexual fires.
• How your sexual type meshes with the other sexual blueprints. How you can have a great sexual time together, meeting both your needs and the needs of your partner. Jaiya contends that with this information, “sexual incompatibility” does not exist.
• The obstacles and pathways to sexual health.
• The stages of sexuality. Helps you to define where you are in your search for a sexually fulfilling life.
  

In addition to the report, you’ll receive emails over a period of several weeks. These contain beneficial short videos about kissing and stimulating the G-Spot for different sexual blueprints.

One negative to be aware of: Jaiya.com aggressively markets its add-on products including courses, and additional reports and packages. I understand the need to make a living, but I felt it was a little over the top.

Of course, you’re free to ignore the hyper marketing and delete emails. You can also unsubscribe from continuing emails.

Act to Achieve A Better Sex Life!

The bottom line: I encourage you to take the online test to identify your sexual blueprint.

My wife and I both took the test, and it’s made a huge difference in how we understand ourselves and each other. She now knows what to do for me, and I know what to do for her to meet her sexual needs.

It’s likely that when you take the test, you’ll see yourself in the sexual blueprint assigned to you. But having the test confirm that identity is empowering, helping you to clarify what you need and want. You can fully claim that identity and work on improving your sex life, having specific activities to focus on.