8 Reasons Why Seniors Should Be Having More Sex

There’s a nasty rumor in our culture that seniors don’t have sex, and if they do, it’s gross and disgusting. Fortunately for us seniors, neither belief is true.

Most seniors do have sex. “Sex doesn’t stop at 50.” Why would we even imagine that it does? Just as younger people enjoy sex, so do seniors. There are many good reasons for seniors to continue having sex into their 50s and beyond.

Most seniors do have sex. “Sex doesn’t stop at 50.”

1. Sex is Fun

When you’re naked with another person, totally exposed and open, it’s easier to let down your defenses and have fun with them. Sex isn’t intended to be serious all the time. Sex is a time for pleasure and fun.

Sex can be complex between two people, and there are going to be misunderstandings, missteps, and failures. It’s a huge advantage if you can laugh about it. As Mark Manson writes in his book Models, “One of my favorite jokes in the bedroom, when stuff goes awry, is, ‘They make it look so easy in the movies.’ If you can get a girl to crack up, she’ll forget she’s naked, forget she’s in a strange position and forget that you just screwed up and just be with you, laughing with you.”

2. Sex is an Ego Boost

If you’re having sex with another person, it’s usually because they find you attractive and desirable. They’re willing to open themselves to you in a very intimate and vulnerable way because they desire to be sexual with you.

Knowing that you’re sexually attractive and desirable to another person ought to make you feel very positive about yourself, maybe even swell your head a bit. A lot of older women think they’re not attractive anymore because they’re not young and firm. To have a man find you sexy and attractive is a big ego boost!

3. Sex Makes You Feel Young Again

Desiring another person sexually, and having them desire you, can make you feel like a teenager again. Making out with a new lover will bring back wonderful memories of when you were much younger.

Having sex will energize you and take years off your attitude. You’ll feel and act younger as a result.

4. Sex Can Make You Look Younger

Dr. David Weeks, a clinical psychologist, conducted a study on the effects of regular intercourse on older people. According to writer Seija Rankin, Dr. Weeks concluded, “having regular intercourse can actually make you look five to seven years younger.”

The article doesn’t give the reasons why. Looking younger is likely due to the many health and psychological benefits that come from having regular good sex.

5. Sex Makes You Healthier

According to an article in WebMD, sex has these 10 health benefits:

• Helps keep your immune system humming.
• Boosts your libido.
• Improves women’s bladder control.
• Lowers your blood pressure.
• Counts as exercise.
• Lowers heart attack risk.
• Lessens pain.
• May make prostate cancer less likely.
• Improves sleep.
• Eases stress.
  

With these benefits, it’s no wonder that a lot of seniors have regular sex. And, it’s much more enjoyable than hours on a treadmill!

6. Sex is Pleasurable

We have been wired as humans to enjoy sex. Our sexual organs are full of nerve endings to ensure it’s pleasurable. It’s how nature makes sure that our species multiplies and survives.

If you’re not receiving pleasure from being sexual, something is wrong. Some women have never experienced an orgasm or otherwise enjoyed sex, and consequently see sex as merely the fulfillment of a partner’s need. Good sex is pleasurable, but not necessarily all sex.

We’re wired as humans to enjoy sex.

If you don’t experience sex as pleasurable, seek help. Either your partner is not doing the things you find enjoyable and you need to communicate, or there’s a physical problem that needs a doctor’s attention. Or perhaps you feel such shame or negativity around sex that you can’t enjoy it. In that case, good counseling can help. Don’t just give up because it doesn’t feel good.

7. Sex Makes You Feel Intimate and Close to Another Person

There are very few human experiences as intimate and vulnerable as having sex with another person. It’s believed that during sex and orgasm chemicals are released into our bloodstreams that “bond” us to the person we are with.

Cuddling, talking, and stroking each other while laying together during or after a sexual encounter is a special time of shared closeness with another person. We feel open, trusting, and comfortable with them, and can completely let down our defenses.

8. Sex Makes You Happy

Good sex makes you feel happy and positive. There’s a “glow” about a person who is experiencing good sex.

It’s an old joke that “if someone is uptight, grouchy, and stressed out, it’s because they haven’t been laid in a while.” On the other hand, after my wife has sex she’s smiling, energetic and happy for the next couple of days.

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