Our First Post; We Believe in Great Senior Sex

We want to educate, inspire and encourage elders to claim their sexuality!

Welcome to the launch of our website, Elder Sexuality 101. After being married for almost 50 years, we enjoy an active and enjoyable sexual relationship. As elders in our late 60s, we have a passion to educate, inspire, and encourage other elders to claim their sexuality.

Sexual Education is Needed

For many years we’ve been amazed and distressed by many people’s lack of basic sexual understanding. Most of us grew up in a culture where no one talked about sex (except maybe our friends who also knew almost nothing) and we received no education about how to sexually pleasure ourselves or each other. Our parents didn’t teach us about sex. Our schools may have provided some basic information on biology, but not what to do with that information.

We sense that limited knowledge tends to result in limited pleasures. We’ve talked about the possibility of doing some public workshops on sexuality because we care about the level of sexual knowledge and how this impacts the quality of sexual pleasure that others experience.

We believe sex is good and healthy for elders, and there is no age limit to sexual pleasure! The fact is elders in their 50s, 60s, 70s, and beyond are still sexually active. When we were younger we assumed, as do many in our culture, that sex was reserved for the young and that older people had no interest in sex. We were wrong!

We believe sex is good and healthy for elders, and there is no age limit to sexual pleasure!

We hope to provide educational tools and motivation for elders to experience sexual joy, regardless of what that looks like due to aging, health, or relationship limitations. We’re starting with this website and the educational blog posts we plan on writing. We hope that over time, our website will become a comprehensive source for elders on the topic of sexuality.

We hope to provide tools and motivation for elders to experience sexual joy, regardless of what that looks like due to aging, health, or relationship limitations.

In addition to an educational blog, we plan to develop and teach public in-person workshops on elder sexuality. We already have a rough outline of topics, but it will take considerable work to fill in the details and produce a visual presentation for the workshop. We hope to announce a starting date for workshops in the coming months.

Elders Giving up on Sex

We are aware that too many elders have, for one reason or another, given up on sex. We think that’s tragic when sexual pleasure is still an option.

A man can’t get or keep an erection any longer and therefore thinks that sex is over. After menopause, intercourse became painful for a woman, and now she has no sexual relationship at all. A spouse has died, and a partner left alone may still desire sex, but doesn’t know how to go about dating again, or is afraid to try a sex toy. Two people partnered for a long time have lost their desire for each other and now live in a sexless relationship. One partner can’t participate sexually due to health issues, and the other partner has given up on sexuality.

Elders Can Still be Sexy!

As we age, our bodies change. We physically can’t do some of the things we used to do, and some things that “worked” for us when we were younger no longer do. It’s not unusual for our sexual desires, triggers, and turn-ons to change over time. What sparked sexual desire for us when we were younger may no longer do so.

The good news is that, in many cases, there are modifications or accommodations that can keep sexual pleasure alive in elders. Even without a partner.

Stay Tuned for More

In the coming weeks and months, we plan to write about the issues affecting elder sexuality, and options for dealing with them. Right now the plan is to add at least one new blog post each week. Stay tuned!

How you can Help Us

If you believe in why we are doing this, there are several things you can do to help:

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• Use the form on our Contact Us page to suggest topics you’d like to see discussed.
• Tell your friends about our blog or share blog posts with them.